Everyday Systems

I've said several times that I didn't say anything directly to the morbidly obese people I encountered. Yet several times people have asked me about what I would have done if I had.

I didn't. OK? I didn't say anything. I said something here.

This has become kind of a drain to me, so I'll bow out ...

Dianamoon, it would help me if you define shaming. I can't imagine how anybody could be "sweet" and shaming at the same time as you describe the woman to have been. I can understand how one could be sweet and direct at the same time but that isn't the word you used.

As for your question of "would ...

I want to say two more things about shaming in general:

1. I was shamed into quitting smoking. Long story short, a nosy lady I encountered in a social situation sweetly told me I was choking myself to death by smoking. There were obviously many other factors that went into my quitting, but I'm not ...

I was clear that I didn't actually walk up to the women and say those things. I was clear that I restrained myself. I'm being honest about what I thought. And yes, I did think it. And a part of me said that I might have been more compassionate to say something. It's called tough love. But being a ...

Interesting reax.

The consensus is that fat shaming doesn't work. But in Japan, France and Italy, it does work. I can't say I know Japan well, but I know that the reason why women are thin in France and Italy (at least in the big cities) is because in a word they get fat shamed. I am generalizing ...

Thanks Dianamoon. I was actually considering a full blood work so this might have pushed me over the edge. I'll do it in August for a variety of reasons.

Thank you! I'm happy to see that my words convinced another person to do this.

I think a lot of us put these things off because we don't want ...

It's not going to help safety-wise if you full on whack your self in the head with it -- but it will help with the occasional shin-graze (or cat-graze), which is something you're far more likely to do. It also makes for a great conversation piece. :-)

OK, just wondering, thanks.

I started a ...

I'm often surprised by caloric info. Sometimes things that appear to be lower in calories is super high and vice versa.

Have a great weekend!

Linda :)

Yes, and weighing things is also a good way to introduce an objective measurement. I don't "go crazy" about the difference between 4 and 4.2 ...

There is a saying, "There but for the grace of God go I...."

I am blessed with a decent metabolism, yet I am still overweight (though not "morbidly obese").

Where would I be if I were less fortunate in my genetics?

I don't think these people are morbidly obese due to genetics. They are ...

Welcome! My husband recently had a mild heart attack & was considered to be in the diabetic range. He's since lost 30 lbs and his blood sugar is in an acceptable range now. Anyway this incident also had me researching different diets including veganism.

In the end I've decided to do a combo of ...

I live in a part of the country which, as yet, hasn't been too affected with* the obesity epidemic. But I'm beginning to see it.

Today I am sitting next to a man who is morbidly obese. He just finished eating a slice of cake, by the way.

Yesterday in a heavily trafficked tourist area I saw four ...

Just wanted some advice really. My daughter is saying she doesn't have any friends at school. She is an only child and refuses to do any after school clubs despite me suggesting it over and over again.

It breaks my heart. I don't know what I can do. I have suggested that each day she approach a ...

I've already mentioned this on another thread I started, but I thought it was a good idea to urge everyone to get bloodwork done. This is true in general but particularly if you are starting a weight loss program. I used to be the biggest scoffer on earth for all the reasons you can imagine. Then I ...

Hello. I didn't see an intro forum so I just wanna say howdy here.

I found out about The No S Diet by accident. (That is for the non-religious. If you are religious/spiritual, perhaps a higher power guided me here.)

You may be interested to hear the trail. I was reading an appreciative but ...

Why do you have to cover your sledgehammer with the sweater? Is it just a general safety issue, or can I get away with not covering it?