Everyday Systems

abelincoln

thanks LB2 I will keep that in mind

abelincoln

sure thing...

Later

abelincoln

oh now I see you want me to stay on the bulletin board didnt catch that the first time well I suppose I will track things maybe not every day or every week but every now and then

I guess I just got to the point where I knew I needed to use my brain a little more and simplify things so that I can ...

abelincoln

funny you should say that about not giving up because I was just taking a walk and I told myself I will not give up I have some new plans for sleep I'm pretty sure I can make it work

abelincoln

this might? be a last post... ive started personal negative tracking. which was one of the reasons I came on to post

abelincoln

I'm amazed almost a year into this i'm having to start from basically scratch. but then my schedule is changed so much i feel i have to.

reinhard: I think the two most fundamental elements of this scaffolding are sleeping and eating: go to bed and get up at the same time every day and eat regular ...

abelincoln

LB2, you are right it has to be done not much way out of that the good thing is I have my wife to help me.

as soon as my kids get out of school they will help too theyve already helped on the weekends and do a pretty good job I'm really proud of them

talk with you later have a good day

abelincoln

yep. treading water sounds better than drowning.

thanks eschano and gp

abelincoln

I am very busy with an early paper route at 230 in the morning it takes away three or four hours of my sleep and I have an hour of work to do during the day related to it so I have let my noS habits slip now I am doing a form of noS not really a form of noS, but the 90 percent solution that Reinhard ...

abelincoln

thanks for your support gp

abelincoln

sort of doing pretend noS lately.

letting the 230 am paper route rule me for $2 an hour this month...

put in 30 day notice

abelincoln

I am trying to do my best but my best just isn't very good today I slept again because I was bothered by something and I sort of have the attitude that at the end of the rainbow there is a pot of gold sounds pretty foolish when you're not putting in the work as you go oh yes I will put in the work ...

abelincoln

my kids are starting a paper route today which means waking up at 245 in the morning so I will see how I will do with schedule conflicts

abelincoln

today, noS failure.

i had dinner when my wife wanted me to, slightly before she got home from work. there was a roast, and i said to her before as she came in, i took what i thought was enough but if there's leftovers i will eat them. a no no.

i thought i was ok with a virtual plate, but still ...

abelincoln

I have implemented a rule, dont mess with personal things that cost money unless its before noon and doesnt interfere with exercise or chores.

so far when it goes good it feels great. but its tough to do, and when I mess up I feel terrible

the reason I do it is because I want to kill two birds ...

abelincoln

a great week would be very great thank you

abelincoln

ok and now that i think of it you are probably referring to the deeper issue.

that of the infidelity.

of course that's more tough to forgive. one can't go through life without occasionally feeling pains related to that.

the best you can do is make the highest level of commitment you've ever made ...

abelincoln

no that sounds fine I am able to forgive quite easily on the promise that the person will try to avoid circumstances in the future and do their best also I like to live in harmony that doesn't mean that I won't poke at her every now and then to test her attitude towards me and the subject but that's ...

abelincoln

Yeah Lovedby2, sure hope so.

it really shook me up with all of this. and the problems you have don't go away either. still have the sleeping problem.

but i don't want to talk about that right now. just want to keep working on family like you said.

it may take me awhile to get back on my feet ...

abelincoln

this time we had a good talk you know the kind where we cry anyways we have made it through so much and it seems we still have love each other

abelincoln

yes we have talked things through. when she cheated on me 4 years back it wasn't because I was an angel so I want you to pardon her for that and we did talk things through so... I would have a glass ceiling of two glasses on occasions but for most part I would just have like a fruit juice I don't ...

abelincoln

I had a horrible weekend as far as self control.

we went to my wife's sister's wedding. it was nerve wracking for me.

day one ate lots, drank one beer (i don't drink much anymore).

day 2 ate even more, drank like 10-12 drinks it seemed like.

now with this excess came loose lips and numbness to ...

abelincoln

yes my grandmother had her surgery and seems to be doing fine as far as the habit I have only done it maybe 3 times since I started noS last year in July/august

abelincoln

absolutely have to get on here to mention this one.

i woke shortly after bedtime to dogs barking (mine).

already pissed about breaking some rules earlier in the day, and some bad luck on purchases that we're sinking my spirits, and an argument with wife, i let myself eat some mac and cheese and ...

abelincoln

today I rolled back some changes normalize my morning routine so that I can maintain the old habits replace the new one

the old habits allowed a small nap, and when I had the nap, I was less tempted to drop good habits like exercise and chores

hope it works

i had a 2 day skid so now I have to ...

abelincoln

today was bad all around. i woke up late, but only a few minutes.

i thought, well i should get my exercise and chores done first.

but instead i got myself interested in a personal project, which lead me to my dads house, which lead me to my grandmas house, and to a couple stores.

so instead of ...

abelincoln

I tried outsmarting myself again today thinking I could nap for 15 minutes to rest in the chair with my eyes shut well considering I don't start until 815 that would be okay but it just doesn't work that way because then you get so tired you want to go to sleep I just have to realize that no matter ...

abelincoln

thanks.. yep 10 is 10.

my wife wants to start walking at night.

might be going another 10.

last night we didnt get to begin, but as our house backs up to a walking track, I did mow us a path to it.

in the morning the hooligan kids are in school, and I walk in front of house.

but at night we are ...

abelincoln

yes I would like to think I did something right sometimes when I come that close to selling out I feel like the devil already owns me

abelincoln

I had a good day. but we had a dine out night at dairy queen, already the 4 of us spent $30 for this school event, and that was just for our meal. our kids then proceeded to have blizzards, and i thought, well this is a special occasion (not really i sort of dislike these events).

so just that ...

abelincoln

tuned out the alarm what does it take to wake up on a Monday?

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thanks yes I walk but only about 10 minutes a day

abelincoln

good job walking the dog I'm sure he she enjoys it I have two dogs I need to make sure and walk them at least once a week they can be a handful

abelincoln

thursday was a bust I let the weather creep into my mind and depress me but it changed me for the better now I dress for the weather rather than just thinking shorts are ok so now I feel fine in the cold which is going to help me to comply with walking today I have already walked and done shovel ...

abelincoln

so if I read right it has to be a flavor not a calorie to be a natural flavor otherwise it would have to be listed as some type of sugar correct me if I'm wrong but the info that you provided seems to be enough to answer my question thank you

abelincoln

I bought some grape juice that said 100% juice natural flavors it did not say no sugar added though and sugar is not in the ingredients instead it just says natural flavors I should have just brought by the Welch's brand but I was trying to get away with getting the cheap brand does anyone know what ...

abelincoln

back on track today......

abelincoln

we are doing some traveling this month, and our sons have soccer.

i hate to say it but it's already shaping up to be a bad month and it's going to get worse with wedding preparations for my wifes' sis.

we're talking all out blast wedding.

so there's 3-6 days right there not counting what we do ...

abelincoln

I know for me it is time for a new mattress I always thought those therapeutic ones are pricey but my problem isn't so bad as long as I get to sleep at the right time and wake up at the right time its when I mess up that problems begin

never would have gotten the therapeutic the last time because A ...

abelincoln

staying asleep is easy for me. its falling asleep thats rough.

i'll live

abelincoln

Minimum daily compliance with todos: 23 done/7 fail.
shovelglove: 14 done/7 fail. (i got wrapped up in personal junk and i've taken action to stop that from happening. like personal hobbies out of control.)
noS N days: i'm showing 15 done/2 fail/2 skip. i am sort of strict, not sure if that was what ...

abelincoln

hi lovedby2 oddly enough I have tried melatonin and the sad part is it was probably when I was 15 or 16 maybe even younger yes I know what a strange child to have taken melatonin and at that time.

after i'd taken it, perhaps in too large of doses, I had read that it would not be good for young ...

abelincoln

and I say 10 hours but I am notoriously bad at falling asleep no matter what the situation I'm always the last person to fall asleep every day may take me an hour 2 to fall asleep on average

abelincoln

I spent a long time worrying about it probably a couple years actually dealing with it now I don't have too much memory on most occasions which is sort of sad but when I do remember it it just gives me something to talk to God about ask for forgiveness or ask that he will help so my children aren't ...

abelincoln

yep. I have tried very hard not to be me sometimes it just catches up with you

I think it all goes back to childhood

so you're right you have to accept yourself

being a parent is very hard too because if you know how hard life was on you you worry about your kids just even that much more

as for ...

abelincoln

I am a little afraid to admit it on here but the trouble I have with sleep is so much that after I get the kids to school and then some chores/exercise I usually take a 20 to 40 minute nap sometimes even for an hour but if I do anything longer then it counts as a failure

the most I would ever ...

abelincoln

well I too dont want to post my failures this month.... havent decided yet.

exercise is good.

take a page from reinhard do what you can

its really simple as that. maybe one day the diet will carry you or vice versa with the exercise.

I felt bad today seeing everybody exercising and I failed to ...

abelincoln

yeah Kittson I know what you mean by not wanting to hear from someone else how to behave with food I have had this problem many times before fortunately this time I didn't make a mistake thanks for commenting

abelincoln

btw I wasnt telling my dad he was right I was confirming the diet was right

I should say glutton not pig.

I am fine now

abelincoln

I thought i'd better come on here and have a say about this weekend.

I drank lots of diet pop. I ate food rather liberally.

also, my dad caught me trying to fudge it a little bit. he offered me a piece of chicken, i said no, then when rolls were brought out i was already finished with my plate and ...

abelincoln

true gp.. i also might only eat them when the weather's nice because I am going to rely on the grill so therefore I will be outdoors. cant do that in nebraska in the winter very easily. also I don't have a garden though it would be nice to have some fresh tomatoes right now I am using my two heathen ...

abelincoln

good for you about taking a walk I decided to make myself a bacon sandwich today on the grill with propane I think I will do that often times for lunch I can't do it for breakfast because I don't have so much time then and my kids would be jealous and I would have to make them some

I know Im mean ...

abelincoln

Hi Lovedby2.. I found you in a search for tea and hunger...

not that that's what your page is about... but i had to return the favor of you having posted on my daily checkin.

i notice you eat lots of bacon sandwiches... right on... i really can relate with that appetite. and noS allows for that ...

abelincoln

hello lovedby2, the rest of last week was good but friday I caught myself taking an extra 4 minutes sleep.

I cant really say its good that somebody can relate to my sleep problem.... but if they do they do I guess.

thing has been once I get up and walk I usually dont feel too bad. or maybe I just ...

abelincoln

I told myself today that the biggest problem I have is sleeping when I'm supposed to be awake that is what I did today slept and I also take a page from reinhard one where he said if you cant do whatever with regularity there's no reason to think you can graduate to something more I believe he said ...

abelincoln

true the biggest thing that I have done wrong lately is complain about things that are related to my wifes sisters wedding it seems like its never ending how many things we have to do for it but I really felt like I didn't do enough sometimes you don't know you care until something happens to make ...

abelincoln

I'm the type that realizes after it's too late that I could have done more or could have been nicer more caring of others and then I feel guilty.

sometimes is just bad luck like I'm not ready

sometimes I have to be pushed into doing things the right way

but I know life has no do overs so I have ...

abelincoln

I haven't been on here in awhile.

Yesterday i felt bad because i'd talked to my uncle, and we are both ramblers, and my wife makes fun of me for it. It's like being pulled into a vortex when i talk with him and it makes me feel like i'm the dumbo out of the 2 with some of the things we talk about ...

abelincoln

it's like the next day after you screw up it's harder to get back on track because you sort of told yourself the day before that you didn't have to do the work so now it's sort of like why not just skip it it feels much better when you have stuck to the program for a while

abelincoln

as reinhard would say I need to get into a habit think so I'm not doomed even when I have a bad at habit because habits can be opposed and new habits can build rather than thinking like an addiction which is usually impossible to solve thinking in terms of habits is better.

abelincoln

I think the main recipe for why I am apt to fail is that I can it's sort of like a drug addict with full access to lots of drugs the addict is probably going to use them maybe not but if they were around them everyday there is a good chance they will. same way with me I get to stay at home nobody is ...

abelincoln

as i did last month i'm checking in with the same format.

for the record.
Minimum daily compliance with todos: 24 done/6 fail (i must have counted an extra 2 days oh well)
shovelglove: 15 done/5 fail/1 skipped for legit reason
noS n days: 19 done/2 fail
sleep score 6.92 was my score where 10 is ...

abelincoln

minor things have a way of throwing me off like today I allowed myself some diet pop but I had a fountain drink and I don't do some drinks because they could always be a real pop that somebody put there by accident or screwed up so this really set me off already in the morning but I think I will try ...

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starting late today..

got the blood tested. went to visit grandma, has bronchitis. she used to pretty much be my maid and do everything for me until i decided that i have to do it on my own.

i was supposed to see if she needed anything per my mom. and her dishes needed washing. i offered twice ...

abelincoln

Hi Lovedby2 I'm personally ok. I did had a crud day yesterday.

Don't want to clog the boards with the same old same old.

I'm getting my blood tested today. wanted to do a risk calculator for heart attack and i need the info that the blood test will give me.

It's hard to find an adult percentile ...

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Yes I will lpearlmom

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and I just remembered that you did give me the answer for the rationalization and procrastination is using an external que such as a timer so that your behavior kicks in at that moment without you having to waste thought procrastinating which still allows you to have a break but it is predefined and ...

abelincoln

i will look more tomorrow about what you said its pretty close to bedtime for today.

Its amazing to find that people care sometimes i lose faith that god creates that in people.

I have to say that my wife really can be great. whats hard is shes so good to so many people where i am content to worry ...

abelincoln

Anyway you gave some common sense helpfull advice and I sort of made it into more. I tend to keep a person at a distance, then when I feel I know them better to pull them too far in, then realizing that push the person back away

abelincoln

Anyway if you've seen spongebob and plankton with his computer wife.

or the movie "Her".

I guess that's sort of what being on a bulletin board talking to someone that you've never met is like.

that can be good. and it can be hard when it's over.

I have a real wife. a real life. I'm happy to have ...

abelincoln

Ok. Well, like i said i only have a couple support systems. If i was so strong myself i wouldn't need them. maybe that's what i'm after. but it's very difficult being a dad, as you really can't get out of that situation.

so instead i try and stick within it and today like when i woke up to my wife ...

abelincoln

I think i did actually hope somebody would intercede.

I'm sorry i already did the nap.

I think i will start today by revealing that I'm the most jealous person on the planet when it comes to my wife, and the most buttoned up afraid person on the planet when it comes to getting out there.

I really ...

abelincoln

sometimes I don't know why I come on here and mention things but I'm planning to take a nap in place of urban Ranger and shovel glove. I would like to do them later but if I don't do them by noon I won't do them at all

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today I took a 30 minute cat nap just close my eyes didnt really sleep because I had an argument with my wife and couldn't bear to sit out with her when all she wanted to do was rip me a new one. anyway all I prayed for was to get back on track and I fully intend to

abelincoln

I tend to worry about becoming a little bit myopic when I practice this method of a singular focus but I don't think in practice that it is that bad

I cant help but see images of Bob Wiley from what about Bob taking his baby steps haha .

well I will give it a go

I guess I would rather be Bob ...

abelincoln

I am very happy to have friends that will help me and things have changed a lot in the past few years I feel a lot better about my circumstances and my chances for the future also I let go of a lot of stress yesterday I'm glad I have a place that recommends doing less and sticking to it rather than ...

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Dealing with disability bureaucrats is not easy on the stress levels. its one thing to cast someone down from society and tell them they are mentally unfit to work, its one invasive step too far to keep barking at about disability reviews every 2 years. if i could get rid of the diagnosis i would ...

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I had a bout with tiredness and despression went on and slept for several hours Extra today

abelincoln

i think for me getting past days like this is key. confess, let go, move on.

And i believe its better confessing here where people arent as emotionally attached.

I just felt beat today. you know when i first get the idea of going back to bed, thats like a tractor beam for me.

Like you said its an ...

abelincoln

I am in the middle of a great month and I decided today to crash sleep for almost four extra hours It will ruin my sleep patterns I lost out on urban ranger and shovel glove but I am trying to salvage the rest of the day

abelincoln

I don't have any fuss about your way it sounds like a good way to do it I'm probably going to start doing it myself it sounds like a good trade off between weighing once in awhile and not ever weighing... which is right where I want to be.

Have a nice day!!

abelincoln

sounds like a good way to do it to ooala53 by turn of the seasons I wonder if you mean the formal Equinox etc

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Oolala53

that's a great way of making yourself more sane by weighing less often I think that is one of the keys to long-term weight loss when you say change of the seasons do you mean the official dates or do you just sort of decide based on weather patterns ect I also like the idea of not allowing ...

abelincoln

And i get the idea that if you do too much at once there will be so much failure you will feel like a failure. i remain optimistic.

abelincoln

PS not feeling as lost now. taking into deep thought what was said. making a few mental adjustments and moving forward. dealt with some frustrating aspects of my lifestyle. anxious to see if i can hold it together this month.

As reinhard says in podcasts, the smallest changes that might actually work

abelincoln

Lovedby2.. yes i fall under the category of all or nothing though i am trying to find ways to be more like my wife.. who seems to flourish in all conditions. sometimes i get where i think like if i was just not so lazy.. or had such corrupted and corruptible habits, then maybe i would be more normal ...

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I certainly want to follow that advice for anything new my problem is usually when things go haywire it gets difficult to do things like today there is 5 inches of snow extra on top of 5 inches and it makes it difficult to go out and do urban Ranger of course It won't be everyday but each time I get ...

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january was a month of change. It all went so fast i never really stopped much to think what all was bugging me. but i certainly had a pretty poor month for getting things done. i struggled with laziness and sleeping too much for a good part of the month before i regrouped and came at it from a ...

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yep sounds good I really have bounced back like I said the neck has been hurting from the way I slept a few days ago I think anyways it's starting to get better too And the weekend always cheers me up Thanks and talk to you some other day

abelincoln

Cold weather and my neck hurting and laziness really got to me so instead of urban range I went to sleep for several hours now I have quite a disappointing feeling in the pit of my stomach

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today I think I am going to use the timer to tell me when to start some of the things I have to do thanks gingerpie for the idea

abelincoln

had to skip a day of shovel glove because my neck was so sore from how I slept I suppose I could be exempt from It i didnt want to get injured worse

abelincoln

I have done that before too. I also rely on timers. it's part of my minimum daily compliance. which may be a mod compared to what reInhard would suggest. I though of it when reading about systematic moderation.

anyway my thoughts are now that if it gets too late there are certain things I can ...

abelincoln

I finally decided that I wont spend time on the past or dwell in the past... to move forward.

There are going to be times when I cant realistically get things I should have done earlier and also I may not want to give myself all day to get thing done that were intended for earlier

after I read ...

abelincoln

I am in the middle of a messed up day what do I do? do I use what little time I have left and try to cram everything that I was supposed to do in the whole day? or do I wait till tomorrow and do better or do I just do part of what I was going to do or do I just do my best.

I haven't got my Rocky ...

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true if I hadn't done something who knows where I'd be in a couple years I'm very thankful for finding the information and support on this website that's helped me a great deal

abelincoln

I must admit I had to suck the gut in just a little bit I am Not sure what I weigh I won't weigh for a while

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today I decided to make two changes in the way I do things one of them is I am only going to weigh in once per month and the other one is I am going to only report my daily check in once a month and just go for the average of all the days and tell people how well I've done over the course of a month ...

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