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sarahkay

Christmas Eve! I'm so excited!

I am wanting to do well with this. I feel in my gut that eating according to hunger is the best way to go, but it is nearly impossible to do with so many triggers and social events where you want to eat with friends or at a party, etc.

Today and tomorrow are S days ...

sarahkay

Today didn't go so well.... my mom was preparing a lot of dishes and desserts for our party tomorrow. So I ended up tasting and munching on little things here and there. It wasn't a totally terrible day, but I could have stopped at one bite of the leftover cream cheese not 4 or 5.... you see the ...

sarahkay

Hey guys! It's been a long time! So much back and forth, posting on the forums, hiding from the forums, creeping and thinking about coming back, then running away again....

In the past few weeks, I have tried to really lose weight. I tried reducing my portions to reasonable amounts. I practiced ...

sarahkay

11/13: Green

Going for green today! I indulged a lot yesterday, so today it feels good to eat "normally". I am feeling better about myself, too. I am still a kind young woman with pretty features and lots of love in my heart. My boyfriend loves me inside and out, and I should do the same. I don't ...

sarahkay

11/12: Red

My darling and I decided we wanted Mexican for lunch... well the restaurant we went to was soo nice and had delicious food and it was a huge amount of it. But it was soo good! I ended up eating a very large lunch... and then he baked cookies later so I had some cookies too. It was a red ...

sarahkay

11/11: Green

So far so good today. Looks like I'm in charge of dinner tonight. Still not sure what to make.

I think I need to drink more water. Sometimes I feel icky and want to turn to food but I think it is simply needing water. Just a thought. It's a habit I'd like to have as well.

I made ...

sarahkay

11/9 and 11/10: S Days

I took my S days on Friday and Saturday because of my beau and I really wanting cinnabon while at the mall haha! Plus, we made tortellini with alfredo sauce and it was sooo good and I knew I'd want seconds. Yesterday was also an S day, and I really didn't do anything ...

sarahkay

11/8: SUCCESS!

Thanks eschano!

Today may or may not be an S day.... my S days tend to be Friday/Saturday or Saturday/Sunday. I have a feeling today will be an S day because I think my beau wants to bake together tonight :D but that is fine. If not, then my S days will be Saturday/Sunday.

Time to ...

sarahkay

11/7: SUCCESS!

Not bad at all! I didn't feel deprived really, and I looked forward to my meals.

sarahkay

Thanks! I appreciate the warm welcome!

sarahkay

I feel like focusing on pounds isn't a great idea for me right now. Maybe I will weigh in when I feel a significant change has happened, such as jeans being really lose or something, just to see, but in general I think I will avoid weighing myself regularly. One of my main goals is finding peace and ...

sarahkay

I'm curious to hear some ideas on whether to weigh oneself or not. Do you guys find you obsess? How often do you weigh in? Do you find it better to judge based on how your clothes fit and how you look in the mirror? Just curious! I'm seriously considering ditching the scale!

sarahkay

Hey No Sers!

I'm back after a lot of back and forth and false starts. I read a really inspiring post just now and thought if it worked for them it will work for me.

I am happy to be coming back to No S and find some peace. I still have to make an effort to not obsess about weight loss, dieting ...

sarahkay

Thanks for the inspiring post! It was just what I needed to take me from "hmm maybe..." to "yes, this is what I need!"

sarahkay

I hate how people seem to criticize intuitive eating so much. It actually is completely normal and how we should eat. it is our minds telling us eat sweets! I want more food! Our stomach is either obviously hungry, its growling consistently or hunger pangs... we know what hunger feels like. Or it is ...

sarahkay

Wednesday October 3: Fail

Huge lunch, and cheesecake for dinner...

But tomorrow is a new day. Even with the oopsies today, I ddin't eat for quite a while after the large lunch, and then I only had a normal portion of cheesecake and stopped. Even with a fail, I had small successes.

sarahkay

Thanks guys! And yes, dana2012, that was my biggest realization. I was diet hopping trying to find ways to not have to say no! Needless to say, it wasn't working!!

And yes, Amy, I am ready to try again. I think it does take several attempts, and I think sometimes stepping away and trying to do it ...

sarahkay

That is so inspiring, I love it!

sarahkay

Monday October 1: Success!

Yesterday went well, despite some tough situations!!

Spending the day with my darling made it tempting to overeat in a celebratory way. But I managed to have breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I will say that lunch and dinner were pushing the one-plate rule, but the fact that ...

sarahkay

Hello all! I decided to make a new thread to accompany my new thinking and my new experience with No S.

I have done No S before and then left... I am returning to No S... again. :oops:

I find that I cannot do this intuitive/naturally thin person thing. I have too many emotional uses for food in ...

sarahkay

I've really been thinking of starting a youtube channel... and posting videos about my progress and such. It would be super motivating to me, and hopefully to others, especially young women struggling with food, weight issues, and self esteem/body image like me!!

What do you guys think? Good idea ...

sarahkay

You all sound like haters!!

This is how I ate when I used to be thin.... it totally works. It's how our bodies are designed to work. However, we lose touch with it. I know I did... now I can't eat that way anymore because I have so many emotional triggers with food that are hard to overcome without ...

sarahkay

Hello all!

I am returning to No S... again. :oops:

I find that I cannot do this intuitive/naturally thin person thing. I have too many emotional uses for food in my life!

But I also realize I do not need to obsess. I have been obsessing about food and weight issues for MONTHS. My wonderful ...

sarahkay

I love reading your posts too. I take away so much wisdom from them.

sarahkay

I know how you feel. I struggle a lot with the emotional tie to food. And sometimes No S can feel really hard. I am actually returning to No S now after quite a long break from it. It was the only way I could control my intake and lose weight without feeling like I have a complicated diet or lots of ...

sarahkay

Thanks ladies! I think accepting that it won't always be easy in the moment has helped me a lot. I had to realize that sometimes good things are still challenging.

This is my first day back, and I'm glad to have sanity in place for the day... no worrying about what I'm going to eat today! I'm ...

sarahkay

I would loooove to hear stories from those of you who have been successfully No Sing... but didn't quite make it "stick" on your first attempt! What finally made it stick for you? What do you like about it? What do you not like? I would love to hear about your experiences!

<3 Sarah

sarahkay

Hey No Sers!

I am back after a loooong break. Fortunately, I haven't gained any weight, still right about the 190 mark.

I was tired of dieting and such, but found I cannot seem to "behave" on my own. I need some rules... just not too many.

After trying different approaches, I have found myself ...

sarahkay

My goal is to actually stick to No S for one full month, no matter what kind of rebellious or cranky feelings I have! I really believe this is the only way out of overweightdom for me, and I have to stick to it!

I also love the idea that NoSnacker had about green being a perfect No S day, yellow ...

sarahkay

6/30: S Day

7/1: S Day

7/2: Fail :(

7/3: ???

Weight: 189.8

It was nice to have S days, but I definitely ate a lot!

Yesterday, Monday, I started out okay. I skipped breakfast because I was so late in the morning. I ate a good lunch on break at work. Then after work David and I went to Walmart ...

sarahkay

That is fantastic!! Way to go!

sarahkay

I'm trying it out too. I feel like there's a chance of me sticking to this, but not a chance at all on other diets! I think this is a pretty normal way to eat, it just feels like a "diet" because of the structure that we normally don't have in our eating habits! I bet even naturally thin people have ...

sarahkay

Technically it would be a red, but in reality it isn't going to hurt you. If you forget to put it on your plate, you could think back and ask yourself would it have fit on your plate if you remembered? Also, I wouldn't worry about it. I know it isn't vanilla No S but no eatig plan should make you ...

sarahkay

After a week or two of success I find I think less about food. And I am totally obsessed with body image and diet so I feel ya! Try it out!

sarahkay

I love the way you set up your check in!! that is such a great idea! Especially for all-or-nothingers! I may steal this one

sarahkay

My goal is to actually stick to No S for one full month, no matter what kind of rebellious or cranky feelings I have! I really believe this is the only way out of overweightdom for me, and I have to stick to it!

I also love the idea that NoSnacker had about green being a perfect No S day, yellow ...

sarahkay

So today I wanted to not do No S at all... but then I thought, "today is an S day!" I think I feel like I shouldn't let myself completely free on S days, but maybe that's why I need them. So I don't get into that "I'm not going to have any rules" mode and then do whatever I want and risk gaining ...

sarahkay

Good luck this month! I'm trying to stick it out this month also!

sarahkay

The resentment sounds SO FAMILIAR! I struggle with that too. I try to remember that eating whatever, whenever doesn't actually feel good... at least not more than once in a while. Which is what S days are for, right?

Hang in there! I finally got three green days under my belt after a month of ...

sarahkay

6/28: Fail

Weight: 189.8

6/29: Fail

Weight: 190.4

Last couple days weren't too great. But even though I broke the "rules", I didn't go completely overboard. Yesterday for instance, I overate at Burger King on my date, but I stopped there and didn't eat again for the rest of the evening. I was ...

sarahkay

That's a great plan oolala!

I think that thinking about food constantly is a HUGE struggle! Because of our whatever,whenever food culture as someone else noted, we tend to look for opportunities to indulge all the time. I personally feel really deprived and "left out" at times because I want to be ...

sarahkay

6/27: Success!

Weight: 190.2

I succeeded! It wasn't too difficult either. I actually need to eat dinner now, but I know I wil be fine so I went ahead and posted! Going for my 4th green in a row tomorrow!

sarahkay

I'm going for green this week also! We can do it!

sarahkay

love it!

sarahkay

6/26: Success!

Weight: 190

Today was one of those days where I just barely was able to say it was green. But I stopped damage before it really got started and that is a huge step for me.

Today's another day!

sarahkay

6/25: Success!

Weight: 191.8

I'm wearing my awesome outfit and feeling HOT! :P My date is going to be wonderful! We're celebrating our one year anniversary together, which was actually the 23rd, but we were working!

We are seeing a movie and going out to dinner. A pretty typical date, but ...

sarahkay

Awesome! me too!

sarahkay

Friday 6/22: Success!

Saturday 6/23: Success! (Made this one green just because I got started again on a Friday!)

Today Sunday 6/24: S Day

I went shopping the other day, and I found a great outfit! I looked gorgeous and I felt great about myself, despite being larger than I want to be.

It is so ...

sarahkay

Today I have decided to dive in. It is time.

I don't think it will be as bad as I think it will be... but I am not healthy. And no matter how much I try to accept this weight, I just know I am not as healthy as I should be. I know I have some discomfort because of it. And I want to prevent health ...

sarahkay

So... I think I'm diving in. I'm a little nervous.

For now, I'm letting myself have sweets if they fit on my plate. not at every meal every day of course, but for now I'm doing the snacks and seconds part... I'll work on the sweets in a week or two or whenever I feel I can do it without falling off ...

sarahkay

Thank you amy! These look really neat! I already saved the page to my favorites, and I will definitely be listening to some of these!

sarahkay

I think something holding me back is this sense of identity I have with being a "fat girl". I have almost a fear that if I am thin, I will never know when people like me for me... right now I know it. I am overweight, so if they are my friends they must like me for me.

And I feel like eating is ...

sarahkay

Saturday and Sunday were both green!!

I know it was the weekend, but I didn't want to lose momentum waiting for Monday.... lol and I still enjoyed a treat or two but it was within my plate.

Part of me wants to try to allow sweets if they fit on my plate, but I feel like they will cost many more ...

sarahkay

I had a great talk with both my mom and a good friend from work today. I finally just got angry about being overweight. About being obese, actually. I got angry and now I'm ready to change.

My friend Erika says we have to be bigger than our problems. So I am taking charge of this problem, rather ...

sarahkay

Yesterday was red... :oops:

Gave up on it when I was with boyfriend. Which is silly. But today I am at work for a double, 9am-10pm. I will only have three opportunities to eat anyway if you count breakfast at home before I leave.

I'm wondering about letting myself have sweets any day of the week ...

sarahkay

I like that... its short term so there is instant success/gratification. What would be a good idea for a goal/reward? I'm having trouble sticking to No S for even a day and last month I was green at least half the month! I'm rebelling against myself it seems like!

sarahkay

I'm trying to get some ideas or quotes or something to think about when I fall off the wagon for a while and need some help climbing back on. What do you do when you really want a snack/sweet/second and you feel yourself giving in, or when you get a case of "whatever" and can't seem to remember how ...

sarahkay

Today... is there something between a green and red on an N day?

I had seconds of mashed potatoes at dinner... and I had a coke at lunch and a chocolate bar.... but other than that I was a good girl! And after having a case of "I don't care" for a couple weeks, I think today was pretty good if I ...

sarahkay

I sort of gave up for a while....

I was being a rebel to myself I suppose... but I want to try again this month. This week. This day. I am not happy like this. And I'm realizing how uncomfortable I am. And even if I could accept my weight and be happy with it, I still am concerned about health ...

sarahkay

Today was a SUCCESS!

I feel like I want to eat... but then I thought, unless it was something really special, it probably wouldn't taste that good. And I think part of my problem is thirst mistaken for hunger or craving.

Anyway, I have another green under my belt, and I'm headed to the ...

sarahkay

this is all so true. thank you all! I feel better today. It was a little tough in the afternoon but once I got through it, I felt like "Okay, back to normal. This feels good."

I went back and looked at my habitcal, and i think green still overpowers the red...

sarahkay

I love it! I love her! AH!

this is great I'm so glad you guys are here to pick me up when I fall! which is frequently!

sarahkay

I wanna play too! :)

My S days work better either Friday/Saturday or Saturday/Sunday depending on when my date night is haha!! But even though I have that slight mod I am pretty much doing vanilla! Hope to find some great encouragement here! Let's do it!

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sarahkay

Thanks Amy! I do feel better today. Not sure what the deal was, but that isn't important I suppose.

I'm going for green today!

sarahkay

Thank you so much guys.

As one of you called it, I had a "whatever" streak. It was rough. Don't know why I had it. But, I guess I can either move on or stay the same. And most likely I will gain. I also liked the idea of picking up what I like and leaving the rest. I really like No S... leaving ...

sarahkay

I have had several red days this month. And I just don't feel "into" No S anymore... I was really into it and when I had a red day I got right back on track. Now I just don't want to do it... I'm not sure why I just completely lost interest...

I can't quite explain what I'm feeling. :(

I want to ...

sarahkay

Your posts always encourage me!

I am going to remember those quotes. Especially the second one... my body doesn't care what day it is!

Keep it up! It does feel good after an N day, doesn't it? I was having a rough couple days and needed that reminder. Thanks!

sarahkay

I've been doing my S days on Friday and Saturday because of my schedule. So Sunday and Monday, N days for me, were not so good.

It's been about a month. I started back in 2010 but never actually developed any sort of habit, so this has been my first real month.

sarahkay

I had two big ol' red days guys! I was doing so well!!

I wasn't in the usual panicked, I-wanna-binge mode when it happened... I calmly decided to eat a dessert, or to have a huge meal. There was no sudden urge to it. Just, "eh, I think I want this".

What happened?! Mom suggested time of the month ...

sarahkay

another red yesterday.

What's my deal??

I just didn't want to follow the rules. It wasn't the usual panicked, bingey, anxious feeling. It was a calm decision to eat sweets or to have a large meal. I am not normally like that... I was HAPPY on No S... why is it different?

It could possibly be that ...

sarahkay

big fat red today.

sarahkay

very true. I really needed some motivation and that was great!

I was about to throw in the towel for the day just because I felt like it. But I know from past experience it really won't be that bad... just enjoy my meals and then walk away!

sarahkay

Friday and Saturday were my S days... I couldn't make it til Saturday. But I don't see my boyfriend on the weekends usually so I would never get a treat with him, and we love to bake!

So my plan is Friday and Saturday for now.

I did soooo well this week! Four successful days IN A ROW!!! I can't ...

sarahkay

Had to pop in to say I am back in the 180's!! This morning I weighed 189.8!!

sarahkay

I commute to college which makes it MUCH easier. But I do have trouble in social situations because it's like you aren't being "normal" and part of the group. If everyone goes out for starbucks you feel left out!

I just try to enjoy meals with them, or tell them I've already eaten. I also try to ...

sarahkay

Hang in there and don't let even extensive fails get to you! I had many false starts if you will at the beginning of the month and I am just now really getting into the swing of things and its the 22nd!

sarahkay

It really did! Not really any overeating, just had some goodies.

Monday 5/21 was a SUCCESS!

Today 5/22 was ALSO a SUCCESS!

I feel amazing! I feel empowered and strong. And light on my feet and energetic. I feel more energetic now when I'm tired than when I pigged out daily on a full night's ...

sarahkay

I eat "weird" thigns too sometimes, but I think eating what you want will keep you from binging if that makes sense

sarahkay

Thanks for the insight!

I feel like my thinking is changing too. I notice I have thoughts I didn't before like, "but I don't want to be too full" or "i want to be proud of succeeding mroe than I want that cookie". I NEVER thought things like that before!

And yes it is very hard not to nibble with ...

sarahkay

I am a little nervous about the freedom of the weekend coming to a close, but I am also excited to return to normal. I am absolutely determined to have 5 green days in a row this week!!

I took a huge step this weekend and told my dear boyfriend about No S. I knew he would be supportive, and I knew ...

sarahkay

Saturday wasn't too bad. I am glad it was an S day because I was extra hungry for some reason!

I ate oatmeal with sliced banana, and a slice of toast with peanutbutter for breakfast. In two hours I was hungry again! So I ate a couple drop biscuits my honey made.

I was hungry by dinnertime at work ...

sarahkay

That is great!

You have been doing No S a little longer than me, and I was wondering about S days. I am afraid of messing up the progress I made during the week, both in terms of building habit and also in weight loss.

How do you allow yourself some "fun" but still not go overboard? What goes on ...

sarahkay

Don't give up! The fact that you are still trying IS successful!

It was really hard for me to get going, but I am slowly getting better and better. Hang in there, do whatever you can to motivate yourself, and don't give up.

sarahkay

Thanks! :)

Thursday was a success, and so was today!! :D

I also had an AMAZING triumph today! I was on my dinner break at work. I ate a good lunch on my first break, but I was forced to buy my second meal. I got mini corn dogs and fries. I knew I needed another little something on my plate to make ...

sarahkay

I know what you mean about getting sloppy. I have had a few fails in just a couple weeks and I don't like it! But I have to tell myself this is what I'm doing, these are the rules. I may not like it sometimes, but I just have to experience those feelings and keep going rather than jumping off the ...

sarahkay

I struggle with this too. But then at work (I work at an amusement park) I see thin people and very large people. How uncomfortable they look, the embarrassment of not fitting quite right in the coasters seats, the shame in their eyes. And then i see thin people who bounce around with their ...

sarahkay

I know the feeling!! I keep messing up too! But I do believe this plan is the best way to lose weight and relax about food.

sarahkay

that is tough. I'm the same way! I debated allowing sweets on my plate if it fits too... I think it helps to have my favorite flavors of yogurt in the house, and fruit and granola bars. Things that are sweet but not really a dessert or anything.

sarahkay

how many hours apart are your meals? I find that most of my meals last 4-5 hours. It helps me to try to have protein at each meal. I haven't been at it long so I don't have too much advice... but see if you can adjust those things! Hope everything works out!

sarahkay

I think that is normal starting out. Having fails is normal starting out too. It's the fact that you kept going, and your successes will eventually start to outweigh your binges.

Try not to worry about weekends too much, and focus on what you really want, rather than feeling obligated to eat lots ...

sarahkay

it is tough for me to handle foods I'm used to overeating also. pizza is a tough one right now!

sarahkay

thanks guys! unfortunately today was not so great.

I was fine at breakfast and lunch. Then my sister and I were at Kings Island and I ended up having half an icee, an ice cream cone, and chili cheese fries. :oops: I mean I probably didn't totally destroy my efforts, I am just upset that I couldn't ...

sarahkay

thanks! :)

Unfortunately, Monday was a fail. But today is a SUCCESS!!

I find that right after I finish my meal I really really REALLY want more! But if I wait about 5 - 10 minutes the feeling passes and I'm glad that I stuck to it and stopped eating.

I have to remember that and make myself wait ...

sarahkay

that is so true. i find my binges are not really binges anymore, just overeating. don't worry amy! i was discouraging by my fails, but overall we are making great progress.

sarahkay

I'm in! I'm working at getting into the habit this month! So many mental changes are happening in just the first week!

sarahkay

I was talking to Mom this morning, and she told me about a story she heard. A woman she knew was trying to lose weight, about 40 pounds. She felt very frustrated and talked to some friends. She asked them about how long it might take to lose the weight and they all said maybe 6 months or so. She was ...

sarahkay

the pizza got the best of me :oops:

but I realized it really wasn't that great. eating "as much as I want" was not all that pleasurable. I felt really stuffed and uncomfortable and almost sick. I remembered how good it felt last night when I came home from work and I didn't snack. I felt light and ...

sarahkay

It's going to be tough to not overeat pizza today for dinner... I've decided two slices is appropriate. So I will savor them and then push my plate away.
It is going to be tough but I want to call it a green day! But I am really tempted to have more than 2 slices after such a miserable day at work ...

sarahkay

yesterday was an S day. And I discovered that I overate because I almost felt obligated to "enjoy" it. But it wasn't that enjoyable. I will probably not vary too much from normal on those days, or at least not as much.

Today was GREEN ! I ate my three meals and I feel good. Now that I'm home after ...

sarahkay

those are the most challenging moments! awesome alternative!

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